Sunday, December 14, 2008

A small documentary about Nepal

A wow documentary comparing Nepal and America and the level of happiness between the people. By Sarah miller.

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=NIsA_ACfsFM

Wednesday, December 10, 2008

What do we want

We go to school, college and then to office. But for what? To earn some money so that we can sustain ourself by food, clothing and shelter. But thats not all that we want. If it had been, we would have stopped working after our basic need was fulfilled. Maslow has given some hierarchy of needs. If one need at lower level is satisfied (physiological, security, belongingness), we thrive for upper level ones (esteem and self actualization). But someone who is self actualized may still be dissatisfied and someone with so called lower level need of belongingness may be very satisfied. 

Satisfaction is concerned with whether one attains what one wants or not. But the question is what do we want? Money, fame, esteem, etc are just the means of what we actually want. Whether after attaining what we want makes us happy or not decides whether we are satisfied or not. 

This proves that what we want is happiness. We are searching for happiness in everything we do, expecting that happiness lies there. After we attain that means, we find that happiness is still not attained and we search for other means. More money, beautiful spouse, promotion, etc.  We experiment with the question 'where is happiness' a few times in our lives and then we die. 

The conclusion is we want happiness in life. 

Monday, December 1, 2008

Second Necessary Criterion for True Love

Having said that the first criterion for true love is that it is not driven by any special quality of the beloved, the second necessary criteria for true love is that there should be no expectation of any sort from the person whom you love.

Expectation is the antithesis of love. If you expect anything from your beloved, then it is what you expect that you love and not the person itself.

There is no guarantee that your beloved one will fulfill all your expectation. They can't fulfill every expectation even though if they want to. Its simply not feasible and possible. Your love may decrease or even cease to exist depending upon the amount of 'love' on your expectation that is not fulfilled.

There is an inverse relationships between the intensity that you expect something and the decrease in love for the person from whom that expectation was denied. This is why I referred expectation as the antithesis of love.

This is another guideline to determine if you are in true love or not. Close your eyes and think what you expect from your love: care, good food, good behavior, security, kids, respect or even love. Will you still love him or her if you don't receive that? If no, then you're not in true love. Its possible that you are attracted or infatuated or...., but not in love. True love is not dependent on anything, at least not on expectations.

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