Friday, November 28, 2008
Friday, November 21, 2008
Basic Criteria for True Love
Uncountable fine minds have attempted to define love. One of them is Hindu Saint Narad. He has composed a small booklet of 84 verses and named it 'Narad Bhakti Sutra'. The literal translation turns out to be 'Formula of devotion by Narad'. No accurate date has been confirmed for this masterpiece but it is agreed that it dates back to more than a thousand years.Among his verses, this article will concentrate on the 54th one, where he lists various criteria for true love.
The basic criterion for true love is that it is not directed towards the subject due to any special quality. If the love is due to any quality such as beautiful face, attractive personality, wealth, fame, etc, then love will cease to exist if that quality is sheded by the subject being loved. In fact, This sort of situation can just be called attraction or infatuation if anything more.
The conclusion is that any love that is directed by any special quality cannot be labelled true love. It is said that nothing in this world is permanent but change. It is highly probable that one day, the special quality that attracted someone may change. And if this happens, the so called love will also change. The love was towards beautiful face, attractive personality, wealth, fame, etc in the first place and not towards the person who had that special quality.
This criterion of true love by Narad gives us a guideline to determine whether we really love someone or it is just a false alarm.
The basic criterion for true love is that it is not directed towards the subject due to any special quality. If the love is due to any quality such as beautiful face, attractive personality, wealth, fame, etc, then love will cease to exist if that quality is sheded by the subject being loved. In fact, This sort of situation can just be called attraction or infatuation if anything more.
The conclusion is that any love that is directed by any special quality cannot be labelled true love. It is said that nothing in this world is permanent but change. It is highly probable that one day, the special quality that attracted someone may change. And if this happens, the so called love will also change. The love was towards beautiful face, attractive personality, wealth, fame, etc in the first place and not towards the person who had that special quality.
This criterion of true love by Narad gives us a guideline to determine whether we really love someone or it is just a false alarm.
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Sunday, November 2, 2008
why dont we retain happiness
Every living entity aspire for happiness and satisfaction. There is no sorrow seeking entity. Every task of every individual is guided by the quest of happiness. But why are we people so unhappy? Haven't we ever found happiness? Of course we have. But the problem is that we dont retain happiness.
Now comes the million dollar question: Why don't we retain happiness? The answer, according to me is that we have never found happiness. What we thought of as happiness is a mere virtual supposition of happiness. Let me explain this with an example. We believe that acquiring a good job will keeps us happy. All of our effort are then directed towards acquiring a good job. We study for years, work hard for good grades, relentlessly search for job and ultimately find one.(if lucky enough...)
What happened after a year! We are really convinced that this job doesn't gives us happiness. Then what gives happiness: maybe promotion, a better paying job, fine colleagues, etc, etc, etc. A good job, which we thought will make us happy for the rest of our life didn't even managed for a year. Why is this? It is because a good job doesn't give us happiness. There is no question about retaining that happiness. As simple as that.
In order to retain happiness, we need to find happiness in the first place. Is it in wife, is it in money, is it in fame or is it in power. After we have decided that 'this' gives me happy and after finding it, I will be happy for the rest of my life, then we can go, search and find it.
This leads us to back to my basic question? Where can we find happiness. If you have found one, please share with me.
Now comes the million dollar question: Why don't we retain happiness? The answer, according to me is that we have never found happiness. What we thought of as happiness is a mere virtual supposition of happiness. Let me explain this with an example. We believe that acquiring a good job will keeps us happy. All of our effort are then directed towards acquiring a good job. We study for years, work hard for good grades, relentlessly search for job and ultimately find one.(if lucky enough...)
What happened after a year! We are really convinced that this job doesn't gives us happiness. Then what gives happiness: maybe promotion, a better paying job, fine colleagues, etc, etc, etc. A good job, which we thought will make us happy for the rest of our life didn't even managed for a year. Why is this? It is because a good job doesn't give us happiness. There is no question about retaining that happiness. As simple as that.
In order to retain happiness, we need to find happiness in the first place. Is it in wife, is it in money, is it in fame or is it in power. After we have decided that 'this' gives me happy and after finding it, I will be happy for the rest of my life, then we can go, search and find it.
This leads us to back to my basic question? Where can we find happiness. If you have found one, please share with me.
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